The misunderstanding between me and the teacher has been cleraed, thanks to a very helpful form tutor, I manage to reverse the situationa dn get along fine with him, as a lesson to everyone, take this as a reference, and remeber that in life, someone will alwyas hate you, like it or not, your seniors will always be control. However, there are ways you can solve things and seek those you are comfortable to speak to and ask for help
I cannot express my hatred any further for this teacher called Mr . X. I do however, wish to get along with him fine, if he would want to that is. I'm actually trying to make a better of the situation, and not make it worse.
I shall explain, take the patience to read, if you can please;
Mr X is my chemistry teacher, having been in his class for 2 years, I have very very often been framed and/or blamed wrongly, most of the actions taken against me such as moving me and giving me warnings and lectures have not been a consequence of my own actions, I can tell you that. As a teacher who has grew hatred against me for 2 years, I have been as nice as I can to him, but I can no longer stand him. While my friend were messing around, I was somehow 'involved' and got moved to the table where I sit facing him opposite literally 10cm from his nose. I live with it, as I can see why he has punished me even though I try to explain it was not my fault, I felt like I had to respect my teachers and seniors so i didn't argue back and relocated my seat. And a word, Mr X is probably the most unpopular teacher in our school.
Throughout these 2 years, our relationship has gone downhill and I get frequently picked on and commented on, I did not like this but didn't say a thing about it. The situation brings me to this afternoon, where we held a meeting in preparation for our school trip on October 13th 2008 on our trip to Japan. Immediately there was a strong sense of hostility, he was one of the teachers going, along with one of the most favored teachers Ms Y and one other teacher.
I had known Ms Y for quite long and had been good friends with her and even met her at some family's barbecue outside of school, all the students in the school liked her and she was very friendly.
Then came the meeting, I walked in with my girlfriend, holding hands but we eventually took our hands off each other when Mr . X started staring at us. I cannot, in anywhere find in the school rules, find it illegal to hold hands, I really cant. The meeting began and Ms Y gave her speech about deposits, passport photocopies etc. Mr X began to lay out the rules, this, has been the first time ever, where I have seen a teacher do something so stupid, he literally set out rules for our trip, this included many stupid things such as:
sitting on the bus with seatbelt and facing forwards
know that there are people on the plane
Immediately, everyone began going WTF. He began laying out the rules, which is the first in any trip, and utterly unnecessary, I asked Ms Y if she agreed to it but she said in discomfort, "he wrote it", she wispsered it and everyone knew what was going on.
First line went off, listening to staff members and following instructions, he said it while looking at me the entire time. First I took it with a smile and laughed it off, clearly, he went deeper than this.
Then came the other part, GIRLS AREN'T ALLOWED IN GUYS BEDROOM AND VICE VERSA, everyone immediately began to question and make noise, while saying that, he specifically stared at me, and added, with bold eyes staring at me, no sneaking out and going out at night. Tension began to grow then came the part that lighted me on fire.
"There are certain individuals I would not want to go with on this trip", specifically targeting me and looking at me when he said it, I began to get really pissed.
Then came the ridiculous; "I don't want to see any holding hands" , staring at me and my girlfriend. I began to light on fire, I had an urge to stand up for myself and punch him, but I held it, kept it in and carried on listening to his bullshit, at this point, everyone was whining and complaining about his stupid rules, which even the other teacher thought was utterly unnecessary. I do not recall a school rule which prohibited the holding of hands, bigger yet, its not against the law. If anything, this was getting personal.
After it was over, we lined up to sign up for some information, he wanted a word with me, he said something along the lines of "I don't like you so behave yourself" I laughed it off and continued to queue up.
When the meeting was over, he gave me and my girlfriend a weird stare and said "I don't wanna see any holding hands in Japan" and we both ignored him and everyone who walked behind his back mocked him in some way or another.
He handed us a letter, one of the lines was " No drinking, no drugs and no inappropriate behavior in inappropriate situations" I got fuck pissed, knowing that we were the only couple going and that this was directly targeted at me, I left, cuz I didn't want my anger to get out of control.
After my lesson after that, I returned to my form room, only to see him coming out of the door, he had generally avoided eye contact with me, until i grabbed his shirt lightly and said "Mr X, i want a word with you", he seemed afraid.
I had a conversation with him, the entire time, he took it backwards, casually and relaxed but with that scared look on his face, I spoke to him.
I said "this is getting out of hand, i don't like the comments you made about me nor did i like the way you talked to me, I know you hate me, but I sincerely hope this dosent get personal and also you better not involve my girlfriend in this, it has nothing to do with her "
He began blabbing bullshit and told me how he understands blahblah, for once, it seemed like I was the teacher, this entire time, i was staring at him with great tension and seriousness, he also said he didn't know who my girlfriend was, which was utter bullshit considering what he had done and said during the meeting. I clearly told him that I don't like him, and I said I know he dosent too, but I hoped to put an end to all this, if he wanted to make my life hard, I was willing and prepared to go to extremes to make his , even harder.
He told me how he had disliked me in class and how I supposingly misbehaved, he said If i didn't respect him , he didn't need to respect me either, I counter argued saying that I didn't disrespect him, there had been allot of misunderstanding and for all that I've been into trouble with, it was not my fault, I also told him that class was class, this is overseas, something drastically different. He had nothing to say.
Then he went on to go no holding hands and how this is a trip with friends. In my head was going on, DO YOU HAVE THE FUCKING RIGHT TO TELL ME WHO I SHOULD SPEND MY TIME WITH? ARE YOU TELLING ME HOW I SHOULD SPEND IT? NO, YOU STAY OUT OF MY FRIENDSHIP , ITS FUCKING NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I just nodded my head and didnt speak back, although I regret not saying that.
I said i really disliked the way he commented on me, not only did I not get a sorry, he thought I was joking. The conversation ended with me telling him in his face " DON'T MAKE THIS PERSONAL and THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY GIRLFRIEND, i hope we get along in the future".
He should be thankful I never bought up how I never bought up the fact he said "He didn't want certain individuals to be on the trip" and how he was staring at me while setting all the rules.
Its supposed to stay professional on a teacher-student relationship, not this personal shit he has taken it into. He literally threatened to move me out of the trip, but I have nothing to lose, with 34 other witnesses and a dozen passer by's when I had the conversation with him, I'm in a win win situation to write a complaint letter and get him fired, also , if he really does move me, ill make sure he knows for sure that nobody on the trip, or in the school, for that matter likes him and that he should be the one moving out of the trip since it would make everyone content.
Going back into my form, I got wet eyes because of how angry I was, I had never been so fed up with a teacher and never ever before, gotten into this kind of personal thing while my friends began to comfort me. I was fucking pissed MAD.
Quotes:
"If you dont respect me in shcool, you wont respect me out either" - WTF? since when was this shit about respect? I'm a great student in shcool, if he has problems with me, he cant skip out on the trip, i wont mind and i dont think anyone else would either.
My Aim:
Reserve the sitatuion and try to get along with him, but knowing his extremely self centered and unreasonable views, I doubt this will happen but I will certainly try.
I have been very nice and talked with absolutely no aggression or attitude int he class following so, I hope he took my words seriously, I do not wish to start or spark another argument, I just want to get along with him and he gets alogn with me fine, I think its a good sign that he kept lfipping to the workpage pages for me without me asking or anything, I relaly hope things get better, if he thought I was taking it as a joke or something, I wasnt, I was being seriously truthful and I was trying to resolve problems with him.
MY last note:
I do admit that I may have been noisy and slightly disturbing my peers to work in class, but i fully blieve that to no extent, does this take on a personal level and completely withdrawl me from the trip because of his hatre towards me.
I do feel offended and I do truly feel attacked on his words, the way he said it, the attitude he put it in and the way he stared at me, relaly unprofessional for a teacher to get personal with students.
Once, my friend stood up for himself when he was opressed by his words. Mr X was picking on him for his bad grades and he stood up for himself and said "can u stop picking on my bad grades? it makes me feel very bad, im not the only one who has got bad grades before", the teacher apologized to him but it was abit of silence after that. Respect for him. Its hard to do soemthign liek that.
I cannot express my hatred any further for this teacher called Mr . X. I do however, wish to get along with him fine, if he would want to that is. I'm actually trying to make a better of the situation, and not make it worse.
I shall explain, take the patience to read, if you can please;
Mr X is my chemistry teacher, having been in his class for 2 years, I have very very often been framed and/or blamed wrongly, most of the actions taken against me such as moving me and giving me warnings and lectures have not been a consequence of my own actions, I can tell you that. As a teacher who has grew hatred against me for 2 years, I have been as nice as I can to him, but I can no longer stand him. While my friend were messing around, I was somehow 'involved' and got moved to the table where I sit facing him opposite literally 10cm from his nose. I live with it, as I can see why he has punished me even though I try to explain it was not my fault, I felt like I had to respect my teachers and seniors so i didn't argue back and relocated my seat. And a word, Mr X is probably the most unpopular teacher in our school.
Throughout these 2 years, our relationship has gone downhill and I get frequently picked on and commented on, I did not like this but didn't say a thing about it. The situation brings me to this afternoon, where we held a meeting in preparation for our school trip on October 13th 2008 on our trip to Japan. Immediately there was a strong sense of hostility, he was one of the teachers going, along with one of the most favored teachers Ms Y and one other teacher.
I had known Ms Y for quite long and had been good friends with her and even met her at some family's barbecue outside of school, all the students in the school liked her and she was very friendly.
Then came the meeting, I walked in with my girlfriend, holding hands but we eventually took our hands off each other when Mr . X started staring at us. I cannot, in anywhere find in the school rules, find it illegal to hold hands, I really cant. The meeting began and Ms Y gave her speech about deposits, passport photocopies etc. Mr X began to lay out the rules, this, has been the first time ever, where I have seen a teacher do something so stupid, he literally set out rules for our trip, this included many stupid things such as:
sitting on the bus with seatbelt and facing forwards
know that there are people on the plane
Immediately, everyone began going WTF. He began laying out the rules, which is the first in any trip, and utterly unnecessary, I asked Ms Y if she agreed to it but she said in discomfort, "he wrote it", she wispsered it and everyone knew what was going on.
First line went off, listening to staff members and following instructions, he said it while looking at me the entire time. First I took it with a smile and laughed it off, clearly, he went deeper than this.
Then came the other part, GIRLS AREN'T ALLOWED IN GUYS BEDROOM AND VICE VERSA, everyone immediately began to question and make noise, while saying that, he specifically stared at me, and added, with bold eyes staring at me, no sneaking out and going out at night. Tension began to grow then came the part that lighted me on fire.
"There are certain individuals I would not want to go with on this trip", specifically targeting me and looking at me when he said it, I began to get really pissed.
Then came the ridiculous; "I don't want to see any holding hands" , staring at me and my girlfriend. I began to light on fire, I had an urge to stand up for myself and punch him, but I held it, kept it in and carried on listening to his bullshit, at this point, everyone was whining and complaining about his stupid rules, which even the other teacher thought was utterly unnecessary. I do not recall a school rule which prohibited the holding of hands, bigger yet, its not against the law. If anything, this was getting personal.
After it was over, we lined up to sign up for some information, he wanted a word with me, he said something along the lines of "I don't like you so behave yourself" I laughed it off and continued to queue up.
When the meeting was over, he gave me and my girlfriend a weird stare and said "I don't wanna see any holding hands in Japan" and we both ignored him and everyone who walked behind his back mocked him in some way or another.
He handed us a letter, one of the lines was " No drinking, no drugs and no inappropriate behavior in inappropriate situations" I got fuck pissed, knowing that we were the only couple going and that this was directly targeted at me, I left, cuz I didn't want my anger to get out of control.
After my lesson after that, I returned to my form room, only to see him coming out of the door, he had generally avoided eye contact with me, until i grabbed his shirt lightly and said "Mr X, i want a word with you", he seemed afraid.
I had a conversation with him, the entire time, he took it backwards, casually and relaxed but with that scared look on his face, I spoke to him.
I said "this is getting out of hand, i don't like the comments you made about me nor did i like the way you talked to me, I know you hate me, but I sincerely hope this dosent get personal and also you better not involve my girlfriend in this, it has nothing to do with her "
He began blabbing bullshit and told me how he understands blahblah, for once, it seemed like I was the teacher, this entire time, i was staring at him with great tension and seriousness, he also said he didn't know who my girlfriend was, which was utter bullshit considering what he had done and said during the meeting. I clearly told him that I don't like him, and I said I know he dosent too, but I hoped to put an end to all this, if he wanted to make my life hard, I was willing and prepared to go to extremes to make his , even harder.
He told me how he had disliked me in class and how I supposingly misbehaved, he said If i didn't respect him , he didn't need to respect me either, I counter argued saying that I didn't disrespect him, there had been allot of misunderstanding and for all that I've been into trouble with, it was not my fault, I also told him that class was class, this is overseas, something drastically different. He had nothing to say.
Then he went on to go no holding hands and how this is a trip with friends. In my head was going on, DO YOU HAVE THE FUCKING RIGHT TO TELL ME WHO I SHOULD SPEND MY TIME WITH? ARE YOU TELLING ME HOW I SHOULD SPEND IT? NO, YOU STAY OUT OF MY FRIENDSHIP , ITS FUCKING NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I just nodded my head and didnt speak back, although I regret not saying that.
I said i really disliked the way he commented on me, not only did I not get a sorry, he thought I was joking. The conversation ended with me telling him in his face " DON'T MAKE THIS PERSONAL and THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY GIRLFRIEND, i hope we get along in the future".
He should be thankful I never bought up how I never bought up the fact he said "He didn't want certain individuals to be on the trip" and how he was staring at me while setting all the rules.
Its supposed to stay professional on a teacher-student relationship, not this personal shit he has taken it into. He literally threatened to move me out of the trip, but I have nothing to lose, with 34 other witnesses and a dozen passer by's when I had the conversation with him, I'm in a win win situation to write a complaint letter and get him fired, also , if he really does move me, ill make sure he knows for sure that nobody on the trip, or in the school, for that matter likes him and that he should be the one moving out of the trip since it would make everyone content.
Going back into my form, I got wet eyes because of how angry I was, I had never been so fed up with a teacher and never ever before, gotten into this kind of personal thing while my friends began to comfort me. I was fucking pissed MAD.
Quotes:
"If you dont respect me in shcool, you wont respect me out either" - WTF? since when was this shit about respect? I'm a great student in shcool, if he has problems with me, he cant skip out on the trip, i wont mind and i dont think anyone else would either.
My Aim:
Reserve the sitatuion and try to get along with him, but knowing his extremely self centered and unreasonable views, I doubt this will happen but I will certainly try.
I have been very nice and talked with absolutely no aggression or attitude int he class following so, I hope he took my words seriously, I do not wish to start or spark another argument, I just want to get along with him and he gets alogn with me fine, I think its a good sign that he kept lfipping to the workpage pages for me without me asking or anything, I relaly hope things get better, if he thought I was taking it as a joke or something, I wasnt, I was being seriously truthful and I was trying to resolve problems with him.
MY last note:
I do admit that I may have been noisy and slightly disturbing my peers to work in class, but i fully blieve that to no extent, does this take on a personal level and completely withdrawl me from the trip because of his hatre towards me.
I do feel offended and I do truly feel attacked on his words, the way he said it, the attitude he put it in and the way he stared at me, relaly unprofessional for a teacher to get personal with students.
Once, my friend stood up for himself when he was opressed by his words. Mr X was picking on him for his bad grades and he stood up for himself and said "can u stop picking on my bad grades? it makes me feel very bad, im not the only one who has got bad grades before", the teacher apologized to him but it was abit of silence after that. Respect for him. Its hard to do soemthign liek that.
Last edited by JaMrulezass (2008-06-16 07:07:25)
