Some of the rules in these servers are just ridiculous, but their server their rules. I just won't go back to that server.
Oh yeah I also got kick from a server for saying and I quote " We can't win the round if all the squad leaders are just standing on the carrier like morons." 30 seconds later kicked. How can your squad spawn on you if you're just standing their waiting for artillary to hit you in the head.
As for base rapping. If someone kills me in my own base with a tank or APC the first thing I do is spawn right back in the same spot with Anti Tank kit and try to clear out our base. Most of the noobs will either keep getting raped or just spawn somewhere else.